【7つの習慣】① 主体性を発揮するための3つの具体的な方法

『7つの習慣』は世界44か国にて翻訳、全世界3000万部、日本国内では200万部の世界的ベストセラーです。
これだけ多くの人に読まれているのは成功の原則として確かな実績があるからだと思います。
この記事では7つの習慣1つずつをどうやって日常生活に取り込み、習慣化していく方法を具体的に書いていきます。

「あなたが関心あるもの」のうち、「あなたが直接的、間接的に影響を及ぼすことができるもの」は何ですか?
関心の対象は、自分自身が影響を及ぼすことができるものとそうでないものに分かれます。
たとえば、天気に関心があっても自分の力で天気に影響を及ぼすことはできませんが、今晩の食事を何にするかについては影響を及ぼすことも可能です。
つまり、同じ関心事でも、影響を及ぼすことができることと影響できないことがあるというわけです。
このように、私たちの身の上に起こる出来事や周囲に存在する物事は、関心の有無、そして影響を及ぼせるか否かで分類することができます。
そのことをコヴィー博士は「関心の輪」と「影響の輪」という概念で説明しています。

影響できないことばかりに意識や行動を振り向けていると、ネガティブな思考回路に陥ってしまったり、今すべきことに意識が向きにくかったりするために、具体的な行動を起こすことが減ってしまい、徐々に自分が影響を及ぼす範囲がせまくなってしまいます。つまり、影響の輪が小さくなってしまいます。
主体的な人はエネルギーを影響の輪の中にあることに集中することができるために、なんらかの結果を出すことができます。
そして、その結果によって、問題が改善したり、目標に向かって前進したりすることができるために、少しずつ、影響を及ぼす範囲が広くなっていきます。
つまり、影響の輪が大きくなっていきます。

<引用 フランクリン・プランナー>

方法1 自己信頼リストを作成する

自己信頼=自信です。

自信を深める方法 ~自己信頼口座という考え方~

自信を深める方法 ~自己信頼口座という考え方~


で書いたように自己信頼口座の残高を増やすことが自信を深めることにつながり
それが主体的に生きるうえでも重要な要素になります。

実践ポイントとしては、毎日の自分との約束事をリストにします。

最初は2~3個の小さい約束事をリストにして着実に自己信頼口座の残高を増やしていくようにして
無理なく生活の中に組み込むようにしましょう。
ルーチン化できてきたら徐々にリストを増やしていくのが継続的に自信を深めるコツです。

リストは○×でチェックしても良いですし、約束事の難易度によって点数をつけても良いとおもいます。
約束事を守れた分だけ自己信頼口座の残高は増えて自信につながります。
逆にできないことを約束するのは信頼を失うので避けましょう。

リストをつくるのにおすすめのアプリは「Daily Goals」です。
使い方はこちらが詳しいです。

リマインダー+習慣化を統計できる『Daily Goals』の使い方

方法2 主体的な言葉を使う

言葉には魔法のように自分に暗示をかけるパワーがあります。
〜できない
〜はムリ
といった否定的な言葉を発するたびに行動力を下げていきます。
多くの場合、否定的な言葉は影響の輪より外のことを考えているからでてきます。

反対に
〜したい、〜ならできる
といった自分の影響が及ぶ中で、できることを考えた言葉には行動を変えるパワーがあります。

このカラクリは潜在意識で説明することができます。
自分が発した言葉はそのまま潜在意識にインプットされるからです。

脳領域でいうと顕在意識が1割にたいして潜在意識が9割をしめます。

さらに顕在意識が起きている間のみ活動するのに対して、潜在意識は寝ている間もフル稼働するので主体的な言葉のパワーは絶大なのです。
逆に軽はずみで口にしてしまう感情的な言葉やネガティブな言葉も潜在意識にはインプットされてしまうのでくれぐれも気をつけましょう。

方法3 失敗を書き換える

自分にとって大変恥ずかしい、大きな失敗をしたときは、いつまでも頭から離れなくなります。
大きなショックをうけるほどの失敗だとトラウマになり、何年も思い出すことになります。
笑いとばせるような小さい失敗はさておき、このような大きな失敗は長期にわたって自信を失う
つまり、自己信頼口座の残高を下げ続けることになります。

例えば、ぼくは先日客先でのプレゼンで緊張しすぎてしまい度々話すことが飛んでしまったことがあります。
なんとか全スライド説明しましたが、まるで練習通りにいかなかったです。
この失敗が頭から離れなくて、このままでは上手くいかないことが頭に残ってしまいます。
そうなると次も同じように緊張することになります。

そこで失敗を書き換える方法を考えました。

上手くいかなかったことをこの記事を書いているようにアウトプットします。
ブログに書いても、紙に書きだしても良いとおもいます。
自分がうまくいかなかったと認識しているとおりに書き出します。

書き出したら、その失敗談を書き直してみます。
自分の弱いところをよく知っていて笑いとばしてくれる人を想像しましょう。
その人になりきって、その人の目線で書きなおします。

こんなに大勢の人前に立って話すのに緊張しないわけがない。
それでも逃げずにこの場に立つ挑戦をしていることがエライ。
すらすらしゃべれてはいないが内容はよく考えられているし熱意も伝わってくる。
プレゼンは場数を踏むことが大事だから次はもっとよくなるだろう。

といった感じです。
潜在意識にはポジティブな言葉もネガティブな言葉も同じようにインプットされます。
つまり、とらえかた次第でどちらにも転ぶということです。
この方法を使って失敗したときでさえ、自己信頼口座の残高をどんどんあげていきましょう。

最後にもう一つ「7つの習慣」を頭に叩き込んで習慣化するのにAudibleは最強ツールだと思います。
ぜひ使ってみることをお勧めします!

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